The Collective
Ongoing support to build more than love.
Most relationship resources hand you a course to finish. The Collective isn't that. It's a living library of nervous-system-based practices — built for the actual moments your relationship moves through, not a curriculum to complete before you're “done.”
You come back to it the way you'd come back to a trusted guide: when something's off, when you're ready to go deeper, when you just want to keep choosing each other on purpose.
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Not A Course
A Living Space To Grow
Most couples don't need another module to finish. They need the right practice for what's actually happening between them, right now.
So The Collective isn't organized by lesson number. It's organized by the questions real couples actually ask — browse to the one that matches where you are today, and go straight there. Nothing is locked. Nothing has to be finished before you can move to the next thing.
And it doesn't sit still. New videos and practices are added regularly, so there's always something new to explore, practice, and deepen — not a library you finish and outgrow, but one that keeps growing alongside your relationship.
Who's Guiding This
We're Not Coaches Who Fixed It From The Outside. We Live Inside It.
We're not coaches who've taught you how to save your marriage from a distance. We've lived it. We're living it, every day.
26 years together. Five kids. Multiple businesses. Burnout. Disconnection. The place where love wasn't enough anymore — and we had to learn what comes after love.
When we built The Collective, we built it around what we've discovered inside our own relationship: couples don't need someone telling them how marriage is supposed to work. They need permission to practice something alive. They need to know it's possible.
Inside The Collective, You Get Both Of Us
We show up as ourselves
Not as experts teaching theory, but as a couple you can follow, learn from, and recognize yourself in. You see how we navigate rupture. How we repair. How we stay curious. How we keep choosing.
We create the container
The rhythm, the framework, the guardrails that hold space for couples to practice together without the pressure of performing or fixing.
You're not joining a platform. You're joining two people who've lived this work — and built a space where you can too.
What's Inside
Everything You Get Inside The Collective
A Living Practice Library
Every practice pairs a short teaching with something you actually do together — a real, embodied exercise, not just something to watch and nod along to. Nothing is ever taken away, and nothing is ever required. It's how The Collective stays alive: there's always something new to practice, not a finish line to reach.
First Access To Retreats
Collective members hear about upcoming retreats — and get the chance to register — before they're open to the public.
Individual & Co-Regulating Somatic Practices
Tools for calming your own nervous system, and practices to do together that help you both come back to regulation, side by side.
A Direct Line To Us
Email in your questions, and get real guidance from us — not a chatbot, not a script. We're in this work too, and we answer as people who are still practicing it ourselves.
The HEART Method, Free
Our full rupture-and-repair course — four videos, somatic practices, and a workbook — is available to Collective members for free.
The Community
Continue Growing With Support
Continue growing with support from the More Than Love™ community. As a member, you'll receive:
First access to our retreats to deepen connection with yourself and your partner.
The opportunity to email us your relationship questions to help guide our community conversations.
An invitation and Zoom link to quarterly live coaching with Brandon and Darci for guidance, connection, and practical tools.
A space to feel supported as you bring what you're learning into everyday life.
When Activation Happens (And It Will)
We Give You The Heart Method
A repeatable framework for moving through rupture without making rupture mean the relationship is broken. Five simple steps — something you can use in the middle of an argument, in the morning after disconnection, or whenever you need to find your way back to each other.
- H
Halt
Pause before the pattern runs. Slow the body down enough to stop reacting on autopilot.
- E
Expand the Heart
Soften enough to stay open to each other instead of closing down or defending.
- A
Assess the Story
Notice the meaning you've attached to what happened, separate from what actually happened.
- R
Recognize the Need
Find the need underneath the reaction — yours and theirs.
- T
Turn Toward
Move toward each other instead of away. Speak what you need. Listen for what they need.
The Heart Method isn't a technique. It's a practice. Inside The Collective, you'll use it, refine it, teach each other how to move through it. When couples have a language for moving through activation instead of letting it derail everything — everything shifts.
Six Questions
Every Practice Lives Under One Of Them
Not a course to complete. A practice to choose from. Browse to the question that matches where you are today, and go straight there.
How Do We Move Through Rupture?
Because rupture isn't a sign of failure. It's where transformation happens.
Slowing Down Activation, Hearing Beneath Conflict, Repairing Without Resentment, The Practice of Repair
How Do We Stay Curious?
Because the questions you ask each other determine the relationship you create.
Deep Conversation Frameworks, Asking Real Questions, Getting Curious About Desire, Moving Beyond Surface Talk
How Do We Stay Alive?
Because intimacy isn't something that just happens. It's something you practice.
Recreating Desire, Embodied Connection, Play as Repair, Touch, Truth, and Vulnerability
How Do We Keep Choosing?
Because choosing each other again and again is how love becomes alive.
The Practice of Choosing, Naming Your Why, Building Shared Vision, Individual Sovereignty in Partnership
How Do We Grow Individually?
Because you can't show up as your best self if you're not practicing being yourself.
Knowing Yourself, Nervous System Capacity, Owning Your Patterns, Speaking Your Truth
How Do We Build as a Team?
Because a relationship is a system, and you're both designing it.
Designing Your Relationship, Making Decisions Together, Shared Leadership, The Business of Partnership
Always Growing
New videos and practices are added regularly, so there's always something new to explore, practice, and deepen — not a library you finish and outgrow, but one that keeps growing alongside your relationship.
Nothing is locked. Nothing has to be finished before you move to the next thing. Just the right practice, whenever you need it.
Why “More Than Love”
Love was never the missing ingredient in most relationships. Capacity was.
The ability to stay in your body. To stay present with each other, even when something old gets triggered. To let the relationship hold more truth, more depth, and more real intimacy than it could before.
That's not something you get from information. It's something you build — through practice, on repeat, together. That's what The Collective is for.
Who Thrives Here
Who Thrives In The Collective
The Couples Who Aren't Waiting for Crisis
You love each other. You're not broken. But you know you could be more alive together. You're ready to invest in what you want to create, not just manage what you're afraid of losing.
The Couples Who Are Ready to Practice
You've done the breakthrough work. You've had the big conversations. Now you want the daily practice that keeps it alive. The Collective is for the long game.
The Couples Deeply Committed to Each Other (And Themselves)
You believe that showing up for your relationship means first showing up for yourself. You're willing to do your individual work and bring that into the partnership.
The Couples Who Want Permission & Community
You don't want a coach telling you what to do. You want guides who've lived it, practices you can choose, and a community of couples on the same journey.
You Probably Resonate If
- Love brought you together, but you know that's not what keeps a relationship alive
- You want more depth, more aliveness, more real connection with your partner
- You're tired of surface-level advice and ready for embodied practice
- You want practices you can return to again and again, not a one-time fix
- You believe your relationship is one of the most important things you'll ever create
- You're committed to your own growth, not just your partner's change
The Collective Is Not For Couples Who
- Are in active crisis or need active crisis support — start with The Deepening or The Reconnection
- Want a fix or a quick solution to a broken relationship
- Aren't ready to own their own patterns and practice their own growth
Not Sure This Is Your Door?
Every Couple Enters Somewhere Different
When you need clarity.
The Reconnection
90 minutes with us to slow down and see what's actually happening beneath the patterns.
Explore The ReconnectionWhen you're ready to transform.
The Deepening
Six months of private mentorship working with you individually and together to change the patterns beneath your relationship.
Explore The DeepeningWhen you need a framework right now.
The Heart Method
A repeatable method for moving through activation and repair without abandoning each other.
Discover The Heart MethodMany couples move through multiple pathways, discovering what serves them at different seasons. Start wherever feels right. We'll meet you there.
Founding — first 50 couples
$99/mo
or $999/year — locked in for life, cancel anytime
After the first 50 couples
$129/mo
or $1,299/year
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When The Collective opens, you'll get instant access to the full practice library — no waiting, no drip schedule, no course to “get through.” Just the right practice, whenever you need it, with new ones added regularly.
Founding couples receive a discounted rate, locked in for as long as membership stays active.